Doing life with someone else can be a great source of joy, AND can also create a great deal of conflict. Intimate relationships require time and work, and often need an external source of help to weather the negative patterns of interaction. Research has shown that up to 80% of the problems we face with our intimate partners could stem from a time preexisting our current relationship. In couples therapy at LifeSong, we can provide help and support for these intimate relationships. We create a safe and nonjudgmental space for couples, where each partner's voice will be heard. We desire to help partners to work as a team to better understand, love and support each other. Our caring professionals are equipped to help couples address a variety of issues, including:
- Infidelity Recovery
- Sexual Issues
- Communication Issues
- Life-stage Transitions
Our team of therapists at LifeSong specialize in three uniquely powerful models of couples work that differ from standard treatment: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), and Restoration Therapy (RT).
EFT seeks to uncover the underlying emotions that run negative thought and behavior patterns and to disarm them so a couple can experience each other in new ways. Instead of being gridlocked in the same old fight, a couple finds new ways of communicating relational fears and needs that lead to a new experience of the relationship altogether. Drawing from the science and research
of adult attachment, EFT leads couples into new cycles of bonding and repair that transform the distress-filled relationship into a place of safety, security, and ultimately of healing.
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) draws from neuroscience as well as attachment theory to help promote securely functioning relationships. PACT therapists help couples truly see one another, focusing on shifts in body language and voice, in order to create new communication patterns and healing within the relationship. PACT can be most helpful for those clients who feel stuck in a pattern of reacting that doesn't necessarily reflect what they feel and believe. In this technological age, PACT equips couples with the skill of listening with their eyes, which, as research has shown, creates a greater bond and attachment with one another.
Restoration Therapy is a Marriage and Family Therapy approach that utilizes Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and mindfulness. RT helps clients identify and understand pain cycles they have learned while forming a sense of identity and safety. This model will help the couple identify a couple's specific pain cycle and grieve it, so therefore the couple can work towards creating a more positive peaceful cycle.
At LifeSong, we believe that the relational space between intimate partners is sacred, carrying the possibility to be a true witness to the love of God for His people. We hope that we can walk alongside couples as they seek intimacy, safety, and trust within their relationship.